Steve Harvey is a master at giving advice, whether solicited and unsolicited. His show focuses on solving the problems of the everyday American, especially women.
Every day, he invites women of all ages to his talk show and answers their questions about love, life, and relationships of all kinds. Much of the time, he just makes fun of the questioner or brushes her questions aside while he pursues his own agenda.
But sometimes, he actually says something worth using. Here are some of Steve Harvey’s best pieces of advice.
- Start Investing
During one of his shows, Harvey decided to forgo straight relationship advice and look at something everyone’s interested in: money. He invited 34-year-old Tim Sykes onto the show to talk about how he personally made millions through investing.
By taking $12,000 from his bar mitzvah money, Sykes was able to earn $70,000 from penny stock investments, which he later turned into a million dollars. Harvey had the sharp instinct to bring in this millionaire-turned-teacher to reveal some of the investing industry’s biggest secrets.
Many women expect to get married and have their husbands be the provider, but it’s better for women to learn to be self-sufficient. Harvey’s viewers received valuable lessons from this show.
- Stop Looking for Love
Though he occasionally explores different areas, most of Harvey’s preaching centers on dating. His number-one piece of advice to women is that they should stop looking for love, because as soon as they do, it’ll come to them.
“You looking for a man is not going to work because you’re not a hunter,” Harvey explained. “What you are excellent at is what men are not. You have the ability to attract a man, and you already know how to do that.”
And he’s right. Most women who stop looking desperately for a man to make them happy tend to discover that happiness more easily, with fewer obstacles.
- Be Careful: Men Have an Agenda
Women also need to understand that the majority of men do not flirt for the sake of flirting, nor are they oblivious to your womanly charms during a conversation. When a man approaches a woman, he has a plan.
“Men don’t come up to you to just talk. We come up to you with a plan,” Steve stated during one of his shows. “We’re looking across the room at you, and we don’t care about your hopes and dreams. We don’t care about what your future holds. We saw something we wanted.”
Though this sounds like a degrading view of men, it’s great advice for women, who should be on their guard. Men have an agenda, and not all women are ready for certain advances. They should be watchful and wary of a man’s intentions and protect themselves.
- Raise Your Standards
“You’ve got to quit lowering your standards,” Harvey’s been known to say many times. “Set your requirements up front so when a guy hooks you, he has to know this is business.”
This is completely true when it comes to relationships. Too many women settle because they fear they won’t find anyone else. But women who tell themselves this falsehood end up with the scum of the earth.
If you want to attract an amazing man, you have to set your rules, and stick to them. Good men are attracted to the confidence of a woman who has high standards.
- Stop Dating Through Media
Steve hit it on the head when he said that face-to-face dating is much more fruitful than dating through social media and texting. Phone calls and in-person meetings are where the real romance happens.
“You have nothing if you’re texting a guy in a relationship. We can text six women a minute. We can text it and push ‘reply all.’ I mean, since we’re lying, we might as well lie to everybody,” he quipped on his show.
“Women talk about [how] chivalry’s dead. Chivalry’s not dead—it’s just not required anymore. You’ve got to get a guy in your face. Look in his eyes. … God has given you all this incredible thing called intuition. You’ve got to use that.”